Relationships: Follow Your Instincts

When you are in a relationship, you will have to make a lot of decisions along the way. No matter whether the decisions are to better the relationship or to end it, you should learn to follow your instincts in order to make those decisions. Trying to work things out in our head when we already feels like the right decision in your heart seems a waste of time and usually leads to second guessing.

Following your first instinct on certain relationship decisions will usually lead to the correct one. It is when we fight those first instincts that we end up in deep trouble. Our instincts are like our consciences. These feelings that we get are trying to tell us something that we need to know. It could be because we think that our mate is cheating on us. We pick up on little signs that tell us something could be going on. We brush those instincts off because we don't really want to believe it. Eventually, we find out that our instincts were correct.

We are often lead to believe that our instincts are paranoia. Paranoia is when you think something is going on but have very little reason to believe it. The two things can easily be confused with each other if we aren't careful. If you feel that something is wrong in the relationship and that decisions have to be made because of it, follow the instinct because it could save you years of frustration. You have to decide if those instincts are worth dealing with all the time or not. Overlooking the fact that something could be wrong won't solve anything. It just puts it on the shelf until it is too late to make a decision about it. The decision will ultimately be made without your consent.

Always follow your instincts when you are making decisions that will affect your relationship. If there is an important decision to make, talk to your mate about it and make sure that you both follow your instincts to give you the right answer. That doesn't mean there won't be times that you will need to figure things out in your head. There are certainly enough of those types of decisions to be made during a relationship, such as where to have dinner. There are other things that you need to follow your heart to make a proper decision. That is when following your instincts is imperative to your happiness.