All's fair in love and war, they say, and in the battleground of love there are few weapons more powerful than jealousy. If you push the right buttons, you can use this weakness to your advantage. Whether you want to play hard-to-get with a new love interest, make your boyfriend more passionate about you, or just get back at an ex who dumped you, follow these steps to have almost any man practically eating out of your hand...
Make sure he has feelings for you. Jealousy only works if the guy has at least some feelings for you. If he's totally not interested, you'll have a very hard time making him jealous. The good news is, any guy you're dating or that you have dated is almost certainly interested in you, and the same can be said with guys that have been flirting with you. If you're not sure if a guy is into you, you can just try to make him jealous anyway. You've got nothing to lose in this situation, and if he does get jealous, then you'll know he's interested.
Be active. Do things you like to do. If you're busy and having fun so that you don't always have time for a guy, he'll start to get a little jealous. This technique is especially effective on ex-boyfriends. It shows that you're going on with your life and having a better time without him. Even if this technique fails to inspire jealousy in the guy, you'll be better off.
Flirt with other guys. Nothing drives guys crazy so much as when a girl they're interested in or involved with flirts with other guys. Many men are incredibly competitive by nature, and if other guys appear to like you, even a guy who wouldn't notice you before may take interest. Make sure the guy knows you're flirting by doing it in front of him or in situations where you know it'll get back to him. If you flirt with too many guys in a short period of time, however, he might catch on, especially if you're not normally that much of a flirt.
Date other guys. Actually dating other guys takes flirting to a whole new level, and it will do the same with the guy's jealousy. Especially if you have just started dating a guy or if a guy has just dumped you, getting out and seeing other people is a great way to keep your independence and to make the guy you want try harder to get you or, in the case of an ex, really regret losing you. If you're in a committed relationship, however, going on dates is usually unacceptable and may cause your boyfriend to break up with you, for good reason.
Try ignoring him lightly. If he and someone else you know are sitting together on the bus, say hi to the friend and not the guy you like. If he reacts immediatly, he likes you. If not, he probably doesn't care.
Maintain guy friends. Even if you don't actually go on dates, it's good to have some guy friends that you hang out with. Even if you're in a committed relationship, there's nothing wrong with having male friends, but when you hang out with them your boyfriend will probably be at least a little jealous and nervous. Just block him out completely, and then he'll get really jealous. Act like you dont care about him. Almost like I have better things to do attitude. Lay it on, and you'll have a perfect jealousy plan.
Make him sweat a little. If you're always available for him, you'll lose some of your mystery, and mystery can create jealousy. For example, don't always answer his calls. When you call him back a couple hours later... you definitely should call him back if you're interested... be vague about what you were doing. Say you were out with a friend or your were just busy. Just by not answering the phone, you may make him wonder what you're doing and who you're with. In the same vein, if he calls you to ask if you want to do something, once in a while it's good to just say that you have other plans, even if you don't really. If he's your boyfriend, you'll probably want to tell him what you were doing so that he doesn't actually think you were out with another guy, but from the time he calls to the time you call him back, he'll be wondering!.
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